The wailings of a 'loo'ser


I feel like such a failure, in  every sense of the term. The reason, not known to me yet. Maybe one of those bad days. Maybe my hormones are acting up. I don't know why but I feel like an utter failure. I have not been able to sleep at all. Watched Julie and Julia for the umpteenth time. Did not feel the connect as I had every single time. It only made me miss my Grandmother even more. It was because of her, that I fell in love with food and with cooking. I am no chef, not even an amateur. But, I forget all my worries, all the things going wrong or right when I cook. Even making simple eggs for breakfast feels like a trance. I have been thinking of cooking regularly but to be very honest, it has only been making me miss Thamma even more. I actually feel very helpless. I have always done things because I loved them or because that made me happy or made others happy. But, I don't feel that happiness anymore, not for others, not from myself. I had always planned my life. Arts in high school, Bachelors in English then Masters in English and finally a P.H.D. I remember by the time I was in class V I knew what my subject for my P.H.D. was going to be. But, look at me now, I can hardly construct a proper sentence in the language I loved so much. When did all that planning change? I do not even remember. I just know I feel very empty. I hear it is quite a common epidemic. Why is it? I wonder why in the age of advanced technology and amazing connectivity, we feel so disconnected? I sometimes blame it purely on the new found love of money. We want something in life, only money can get it. The more we want, the more money we need. I know there is only one major need in my life! GOOD FOOD! And, for that I can sell my soul. Ok, not mine maybe but you get the hint! :P I have no idea why with an early morning tomorrow, I am up this late, typing my random, random thoughts in a blog which none reads but I. Call it madness, but I am actually feeling like I just talked to a confidant and feel like I can go out and win the world. I do not have any wishes to do so though. All I want from life are these: A steady job with little hassle, money to buy my family and friends (the closest of them all, not the 'hi-hello-how are' types) anything and everything their hearts might ever desire, and to help out others in more ways than just simple 'charity'. I do not really care about pleasing my boss or making big bucks to have a lavish house and a sexy car. Those are just added bonuses if gotten. I want to make sure the people in my life are always happy. And, if  I am the reason for their happiness, it makes me happy! Go ahead call me selfish. But, seeing my friends smile when I randomly treat them to something nice, never fails to make me smile. I am no saint though, I want that latest macbook pro and that amazing camera or that cool Iphone. But, I know, I can very well do without them. They always are temporary haphineses, only good till a better model comes out. I honestly do not know what lies before me anymore, if I want to study further, do some other job back home, or stay here and work for the next 20 years, or simply take off on a 'spiritual journey'. But, one thing I have learnt from experience, I want to make sure those who care (I have figured there are a few who do) about me, are always happy. I cannot anymore plan my life for more than a day in prior. I no longer know for sure, that 'this is what I want'. That scares the hell out of me, but I love this fear, this uncertainty. Because this assures me to live my life a little bit more everyday than I used to before. I have taken so many things for granted in past because of my obsessive planning. I am not the best communicator in the world, and usually what I think in my head and what I finally end up saying are entirely different. Yet, I have realised I love my life, every good and bad bit of it. There are so many things I wish now, I had done differently. So many decisions I wish I had taken differently. But, I know for sure now, each of those little details have made me who I am today. And, I believe I am not the worst thing on Earth right this very minute. Maybe one day in future I will become someone worthwhile, someone rich, someone to look upto, but even if that does not happen, I will know I lived my life. I have no freaking clue why I started writing this post and spent a good 16 minute on it, but maybe one day in future I will or someone will read this and feel happy or will just smile. Anyway, I will go to my little dreamland where everything is good and dandy. Good night for now. (to whoever is reading, other than moi) :)